Thoughts of Worry or Expecting?

amazing-purple-butterfly-hd-pc-wallpaperThe thoughts we choose to think are the tools we use to paint the canvas of our lives. ~Louise Hay

I was journaling yesterday and sometimes the things I think I know on the surface don’t really sink in until the right time when I need to hear them in my heart. Yesterday did just that. I was having a difficult time because I miss people in my life. The holidays usually get to me because for so many years I made them so special for all of us. But yesterday I was journaling some of that sadness, which would probably make a good book one day.

What I found out about myself and others is when we continue to revisit the past, we continue to live in it. Whether good or bad we continue to make all of it in our present moment and anchoring ourselves to it still. Should we forget all the good things? No, but what we should do is realize it is just a story that only we give it meaning to. If you want to move forward and have a positive, healthy, loving and fun life then we have to chose to let go of the pain of memories to move forward. Searching or asking why questions over and over will never ever solve or give us freedom from the past. Asking why did this happen and search for answers only prolongs and keeps us stuck in that cloud of pain. Emotion anchors us to the past and keeps our feet there while our brains want to have a better life.

If we can stop anchoring ourselves to the past, and just accept what has happened and move forward or on with our lives we can change. We can have the hope and opportunities we want to open up. Although I can not change my choices, my past, or what has happened what I can do is let go, live in the present moment, enjoy today and project hope and happiness into the future. Instead of projecting the sadness of memories past by asking why it happened. When we seek for the answers as to why, then we will keep getting the same, more difficult circumstances, more lower vibrations because that is what we keep asking for. Raise above these low vibrations, raise and go way above this frequency to start to attract new things. We don’t have to know why all the time, we can just be and trust in life.

Sometimes the holiday season is the perfect time to practice the faith and hope that we so often push aside. The holidays are a magical time of the year. Why? Because we transform for a month or month and a half, we get to change our surroundings with twinkling lights, we decorate our homes and transform them into change and beauty. We get to decorate the outside of the house with cute decorations for those that drive by smile when they see them. It’s about bringing joy to others and being open up enough to receive it as well. Its about the magic and wonder of what could happen, what can happen and what does happen when we let in the child like wonder again. Wouldn’t it be nice for a $1,000 to show up in your stocking? As kids we think one track, one way, it is under the tree or in a stocking. But as adults we limit that knowing to how it will happen. Don’t worry about the how, heck you don’t have it right now anyway so why worry about how it will show up? Just expect miracles, miracles of the season and so many positive, good things can happen. It works every time, usually better and in unexpected way.

~Much love to you all


HOPE Stealers

I was listening to a webinar yesterday and heard one sentence that struck my soul. It spoke volumes to me and I don’t think people realize the harm that comes from this one action. I usually don’t get to personal on this blog but on this post I will. The sentence was “I am really careful about stealing someone’s hope. Those that do are the worst people in the world, they take the very essence on a being and leave them feeling worthless.” I had to stop the webinar and let that sink in. Although it is basic knowledge and common sense, sometimes you need to hear it from your mentor and a way to fix it when and if it does happen to you.

All my life I have felt I never fit in with the mold. I was never in that “popular cheerleader group” I always did my own thing, walked to the beat of my own drum. I had friends, but I chose 4 really close friends I hung out with all the time. I let some new people come into my circle but really those 4 knew the real me. The me that let my hair down and could act wild and crazy with. I was always spontaneous, fun and filled with laughter. But on the outside I could come across as snobby, stuck up and mean at times. I am not the “normal” kind of person, but what is normal?  My goodness all my life I have tried time and time again to be normal and what has happened I have lost the person I love and tried to be someone I am not. Just to please those whose opinions I don’t really care about.

Hope stealers are really the lowest of low in a vibrational sense. They are dream killers, not stealers but killers because when you manage to lose all your hope about life’s possibilities you have truly lost your passion and essence in life. You are no longer in the game of life and you just give up and float day to day.  Life is truly so much more, it is mysterious, beautiful and loving. It is so much more than any of us can imagine or comprehend, why? Because life is limitless, when we learn to lift the limits off ourselves, the labels, the opinions of others upon our lives we can go further than what we think we can do. I had some hope stealers literally obliterate me into pieces. It didn’t take long to knock me off my pedestal (as they called it) and rob me of my heart and desires. Why? Because in the end I let them have more power over my thoughts than me. In the end I let them tell me how I should live my life in order to have my heart back. But really I would never have my heart back the way it was. I would never get what they had “promised” because my hope had been robbed. My hope had died a day in June about 5 years ago. The nasty emails, threats and breaking me down over and over almost got me. But thank goodness it didn’t. I knew deep down in my heart no matter what they thought about me, really it is how they thought about themselves. I was attacked at my core and guess what I made it to the other side. And I know everyone can, I know everyone can come out of any crisis a better person, a more well rounded person and in the end a more loving person.

The world is a different place now, it is filled with fear, anger and shame more than ever. I now know my place and purpose, I know that I am a healer, I know now that the reason why I never fit in was because my light that shines inside me is a lot different than most. It is here to help others and that is a different type of person than most. I am happy with myself and my uniqueness. I no longer feel the need to fit in all the time. So if you have ever felt different, unique and never really fit in, no worries, it means you are special too. And in time you will see your light as being special and full of sparkles too. What you have is a “weirdness” to you too, and that my friend is amazing. It means you are here for a special reason. Your light is to shine to make a difference for others that need it. Maybe even to shine on the ones who tried to steal your hope in the first place.

~Much love to you all

Failure is an Illusion

Let’s talk about failure today. For some reason with the holidays around the corner I am hearing many people say I am not where I planned to be at this moment in time. I am unable to do what I wanted to do for the holidays. They feel like a failure at life and have let themselves and others down. I have been there too, I have felt these tricky little emotions and I too have fallen victim to this way of thinking and believing.

So my statement is “failure is an illusion, it is you giving up before giving it your all one more time. It is a place in time that you have deemed defeat, and given up.” Let’s break down this statement of its the holiday season and I am not where I want to be in life. For the past 11 months have you really honestly given it your all every single day? Or did you slack off here and there “more here than there” and expected it to just fall into your lap? Have you gone the past 11 months without a well laid out action step plan? Were you flying by the seat of your pants? Failure to me is an option, it is when you give up doing because it is now a belief of yours that it is to hard or unattainable. That is so not true!! Plus the holiday season is just beginning with Thanksgiving next week and December around the corner!! You still have plenty of time to sit down come up with a plan and action steps to do everyday.

For some we don’t know what steps to take today. So we break it down into smaller steps. For example your passion is to write, you ask yourself what are 2 things I can do today to get me going? 2 small steps that will lead me to what I want, a job that lets me wake up in the morning, write and be free for the rest of the day to answer questions or get inspired. How can I make money or success from this? Begin with writing for 30 minutes or an hour a day. Begin with that action step because that is what you really love to do, right? Journal if you have to but get back into a routine of setting aside time to do whatever your passion is. You will begin to feel accomplished that you have done this step and create momentum in your work. Eventually you will have half a book or ebook written in no time. Then during the day when you are doing every other chore you want done you can add how to find an agent, or publish your book, or promote your blog, social media webinar. You sharpen your skills in promoting and this gets more momentum behind you pushing you forward. Just picking 2 small steps a day will lead you to more steps and eventually your finished goal.

Failure is only when you admit defeat, failure is when you give up on yourself and this is something we never ever do!! We can have set backs and upsets and something can shake us to our core. BUT, that’s when we figure out we are unstoppable and we don’t break, we may be changed forever but we survived and we go forward. DO NOT give up on your dreams, do not give up on you. Just keep moving forward and then your failure turns into a set back and those can always be achieved.

I can not state enough gratitude and nourishing your body gets you the results you want. I have done my own experiments on this subject to see the results first hand and with my clients. Failure is an illusion in your mind, a block, and we all put our own blocks up. If you would like to move past your blocks email me for a free consult time.

~Much love sent to you

Forgiving An Art Misplaced

Have you ever looked around you and thought good gravy how did my life get so crazy? Happens to me and happens to many people I know and talk to. It’s like an ah-ha moment for some but for others it is a way to self criticize and guilt can creep up. What do you mean you ask? How can that happen? Well even though you read blogs, articles or see people on TV each of us has our own struggles, we all have things in our lives that are difficult, and no one out there is perfect. But for todays blog we are going to focus on our surroundings and how we use it to disable ourselves in so many ways.

I have had a very hectic past two weeks, literally living off of 5 hours of sleep if I am lucky (thanks to my Fitbit reminding me of how I did not reach my goal each night). I took on so many projects and didn’t say no to anything or anyone, just kept stacking it on myself. So what does the body do when it wants you to slow down? It creates an illness (easiest way to get you to slow down, or first warning sign). Bam double ear infections for me, two shots later and medicine I am relaxing this morning. I chose to wake up before the sun rose to do some reflecting time for myself. The thoughts that began to come to surface were enlightening because it wasn’t thoughts of I’m so tired, or dang this ear really hurts, it was of if I am a stay at home mom and my house is a mess, I am not organized at all, I need to do catch up work with the business papers, I just need a day of organizing everything around me. I stopped myself and thought why am I self criticizing so much? I am sitting here defeating myself before my day even starts. In a Course of Miracles it states “all dis-ease comes from a state of unforgiveness.” “whenever we are ill, we need to look around to see who it is we need to forgive.” Uh, that would be forgive myself for not being this perfect little princess I have pictured in my mind. Change my perception some to look at what all I have done is a huge accomplishment and pat myself on the back. How can I have a perfectly clean house with a 3 year old, a 9 year old and 16 year old. I have done my best in the past two weeks and I know I didn’t slack at all. Every minute was filled with an activity and now it is time for me to recharge. When we can shift and come from a place of love and accepting ourselves we are creating a space of safety, trust, deserving and respecting ourselves.  Thus will create the organization we feel we do not have on the inside or the outside in life. Saying a mantra such as “I forgive you for not being the way I wanted you to be, I forgive you and set you free.” It is a freeing mantra and yes I use it when someone does something I don’t agree with or like towards them. It releases the anger, dissolves the negative feelings because you are stating it doesn’t have to be perfect or exactly the way you picture it. You are forgiving for yourself not for them. Your main goal is to get into a better feeling about the situation, not beat yourself up over it.  If we change our attitude over the situation the circumstances you wanted in the first place will probably come to light or something better will.

The only thing we are ever dealing with is a thought and that thought can be changed. It is your choice on how you want to change it. Your point of power is always in the present moment. If you don’t have the thought, you won’t have the feeling and all thoughts can be changed.  Change the thought, and the feeling must go. It may be a challenge at first but focus on what you want so what you don’t want doesn’t keep happening.

What are some of the things you say first thing in the morning? Do you notice what’s pre-programmed, how have you wired yourself? Just notice and if it makes you feel good then you are on the correct path.

What’s your WHY?

What is your WHY? I have heard this over and over so many times. First time I heard this line was when I was in multi-level marketing company. Listen up MLM leaders or want to be leaders of your team. Let’s take a step back and see what meaning this sentence has in the context of motivating someone to get results they want. We will use MLM companies as the example because I hear it all the time in my clients and on leadership calls. Your Why is suppose to be your motivating factor to get your booty up out of bed and the front door to get you the results you want to see. For most the Why is explained as the driving force to get you out of your comfort zone. If you don’t see results then your Why isn’t big enough. OK, this is where I get a testy with the whole Why thing.

When I first started out on my journey with self-improvement I was in a MLM company, I actually did really well with that company and moved through the ranks as a first timer pretty fast. Then like all MLM companies your team falls apart and it being my first time in I didn’t understand what they teach now. I took it personal, I took it as why can’t I keep my team going? What is wrong with me? Instead of learning about the cycles in nature that is applied in business and digging in to attract more of a team I stopped. My momentum stopped and therefore my journey on MLM rollercoaster I see so many people on got off track. My up line said what began to hit a nerve with me with that sentence “Your Why must not be big enough.” Excuse my bluntness but I felt this way so many other I speak to feel like this too.

Ok, who are you to tell me why isn’t big enough? My why was huge at that time, my why was bigger than me and had me move mountains at first. My why could have moved the most experienced MLM higher up people to tears. I could hear them saying my why on stage as I walked up there to receive awards. It was personal, motivating and important but according to my higher ups it wasn’t big enough.

Now fast forward to last week, I was having this Why conversation again with a good friend. Her text to me was, my why is huge but why do I stop my momentum. I had to catch myself because It triggered my old feelings all over again. I began to ask questions such as, “what do you think of first thing in the morning?”  What are you doing right before bed? What is your daily goal and what are you letting get in the way of that goal everyday? Busy work? Avoidance? Excuses? Tired? Burn out? All of these are fixable to get you back on tract it is just identifying the issue and changing the perspective about it. It has nothing to do with that huge WHY!!

I started to laugh when I was texting back stating what the heck? You are doubting your why when all you have to do is tweak your perspective about your excuse. You have let your excuse become bigger than your why and let’s change that. So we ended up making a game out of prospecting, I offered up the idea of A,B,C game since she loves to have fun. She needed 15 signups so we decided for every letter of alphabet she needed a business name. If she couldn’t find an X then she would double up a different letter such as an R. She was more pumped up when we got off the phone she went out and did half the alphabet that day. We will come up with a new game when this wears off because we are evolving human beings. We never stay the same, nor do our circumstances or feelings. She has a goal she wants to achieve and I will be there to help her achieve it through the bumps in the road.

Honestly I think our why should be renamed. I say this because when a person is told their why isn’t big enough that is a let down for them. You don’t know how they feel, you have just invalidated and deflated them as a leader. You have now told them that something is wrong with their why or with them personally because they can’t hit that goal. Instead of looking or stating about their why, start asking questions to see what is getting in the way of their achievement. Strengthen their drive through busting those excuses and good old fashioned work ethic and you will empower their why and thus empower them.

This literally goes across the board in any company, family or even your own personal goals. To live with just getting by everyday, doing all the small things over and over and never leaving that comfort zone you will never grow to your goals. Your goals are right outside that comfort zone, you grow to them, they don’t come to you, that’s why you reach or stretch for them. That’s what makes the journey fun, you learn and grow as a person. To get different results you have to do differently and most importantly think differently!!

Love to you all

Happiness is Simple

Can you hear it? Can you feel it? For some of us the holiday season stress starts when holiday decorations begin to roll out in the stores. With the countdowns on Facebook until Christmas morning I can tell some of my close friends and clients are already beginning to stress a little. Why? The underlying theme of how can I afford the holidays this year? So much has happened this year and I just can’t get the success I want in my business, or I am not making enough money to get ahead and buy anything extra.

Knowing the brain is activated in many areas due to our stress levels and emotions let’s look at how to activate more of the good chemical release during these times. First our brains release chemicals when we begin to “think” about thoughts. Our ideas will either activate good chemicals going out or chemicals that make us more upset. Our brains are such a mystery but what we do know just asking the basic question about gratitude is enough to send the good feeling chemicals through our body. Just asking yourself “what am I grateful for right now?” Even if you can’t come up with anything to be grateful for, the thought of practicing the act of gratitude will get the good juices flowing in your body, release some of that stress and uplift you. Why? We can’t focus on two things at the same time. Well the two opposites at the same time, we can think Oh I will be ok, then go back to no I won’t and then back to yes I will. You can have that ping pong ball match in your mind if you want to, but to focus, really focus it can only be on one thought. Chose Yes, I will be ok, I will figure this out.

Second, success does not come first, it comes second. Did you read that correctly? Think about it this way, when we accomplish a goal we have, what do we do? Enjoy it but look for the next goal to accomplish. This is a good thing, not a bad thing but the goal itself does not make us happy. It might for the moment, to achieve and celebrate but that happiness goes away with time and we look to the next thing to get. If we can be happy daily we are open to more opportunities therefore increasing our bucket list experiences and that my friend is what life is truly about. Living in the present moment and enjoying life. Success comes with what you love, it may be a struggle at the beginning but your happiness will see you through it. When you love what you do the action steps seems effortless, easy and not time consuming.

SO how can you get through this holiday season less stressed? Let’s look at the problem as a challenge. The earlier you look for solutions the better. Not everything has to be gloom and doom, especially during the holiday season. The season is known for miracles, it is known for magical feelings and they do happen everyday. Not just during the holiday season, that is not a rule for miracles. One start your list now and begin to look for sales. I know many moms that are almost done with their holiday shopping already and it’s not even October yet! Why? They find that is one thing to get out of the way to make the holidays less stressful. If that isn’t in your budget or belief system right now then begin a list so you know what to be on the lookout for. If you already know you will be cooking start your grocery list, put it in your planner, begin to pencil in things you want done. Such as a day Christmas cards go out, meals, parties, kids events, if you are going to host a get together, the more you plan you take stress off your brain. Procrastination is a killer to productivity and thinking clearly. Procrastinating will double your stress levels to new highs and it just isn’t worth it.

When you want to create more money in your life, happiness helps more than anything. You will create more in life when you are happy!! Happiness doesn’t come from a thing, person or food, it comes from within you. That optimism outlook, the problem with most people is that they look outside for happiness instead of a spiritual side. We put so much on things or people to make us happy. We can’t always depend on those people to act right, so we get upset over their behavior. When we depend upon ourselves to make us happy first the others in our life are bonuses. Does that make sense? In any spiritual teaching it says something along the lines of “you are not alone, God or Universe is everything and everywhere” So this means if we are lonely or feel like no one supports us, that is so not true. We are surrounded all the time by love, we just have to be open to it. Want proof? Ask someone for a good long hug. That is a feeling of love in our brain. Those that hug 5 times or more a day are a lot happier in life! A good hug, one that you pause and savor and enjoy the moment. GO ahead and try it.


Action Steps Creates Our Goals

Goals are achievable, they really are no matter what you have written down.  If your mind or heart believes you can obtain the goal then it is something you are very capable of doing.  Read that last sentence about seven times and let it really sink in!

What stands in the way of this achievement is our excuses. I whole heartedly believe this bottom line without a doubt. Excuses are nothing but our fears, doubts and hurt in any way, shape or form that we let run wild In our minds.  This defeats us every time.  Excuses are clever and tricky no less they like to appear real but are really fake. They give us a million reasons why we should stay safe in our comfort zone and not venture out.  We have to hunt for them to extinguish them and then go forward with our goal.  To achieve what we want we have to do things differently or we will end up going around in a circle. Our circle usually starts with a goal, we move forward a couple of baby steps or one giant leap, our excuses kick in (to keep us safe) and we get frustrated and depressed and give up. Then we start all over again, sometimes we end up a little further than the last attempt but none the less those pesky excuses stop us in our progress. Keep going, bust through those excuses one step at a time and no matter what listen to your heart!  Keep your eyes on the prize and go for it!

I’m telling ya, if your heart and mind can think of you achieving it, if you can see yourself having it, do the work it takes to get it. The work is usually simple, get off your butt, make the calls or go see people, network and talk, learn the skills to be a better listener. What you are really doing is making yourself a better version of you. While in the process meeting some incredible people out there that can touch your life or you touch theirs in powerful ways. Simple steps that we fill up with excuses as to why we don’t talk to one another. Or we have so much more to do than do the action steps it takes to fulfill our dreams.


Secret to Change

The Secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but building the new ~Socrates

I think there were a lot of unwritten laws the people in the past knew about and just lived their life to. So many fascinating yet true quotes and stories came from our past. This one is one of the most simple, clear cut ways of thinking that truly work in our everyday life currently. How many of us wake up to our problems from yesterday? We re-hash what was said, done or not done. We talk negatively about it and still get ourselves all upset over it? Why do we do this to ourselves? Is it habit? Does it make us feel better?  Is it something we need to do all day long until the problem is resolved?

NOPE! We do not need to put ourselves through this anymore. If we already know our thoughts bring life to what we are thinking then why in the world would we want to bring more of the situation to life? Why would we wake up fresh on a new day and drag yesterday into a new day? Can you ignore the problem? Well we have been conditioned not to ignore, so that may not work if it is something that has to be done right now. Can we think clearly if we are mad or upset, no. Our thoughts are hindered chemically in our body and mind when we are distressed or upset. So that doesn’t really work either, so what are we suppose to do?

Change the perspective of the situation. For example, a family member of mine has about 25 life changing moments to deal with in what feels like each day. It does not look good nor does it look like it will get better in the next week. So what can she do? Well one thing is to get a notebook, on each page make a heading and then under that heading make a to do list. To not get personal I will use another example for headings here. Take fall/spring cleaning a house, one heading would be living room and put all the things you would like to do or repairs to make before weather starts to get bad in this column. You would do a page for each room with each room as your heading. Now getting back to the family member story, I made her 7 columns via text message that I knew needed to be completed and items I knew about in each column. I sat and thought wow, that is A LOT to try to get done, who can she trust to help her, and reassured it would not get all done today but try your best to knock out as much as possible each day. When you go to bed tonight instead of thinking of this massive list, instead celebrate what you did do today. You are so much further along than you were yesterday when you didn’t even have a definite plan. You can’t do a years worth of stuff in one day, let’s be realistic and we don’t beat ourselves up for getting this behind either. That does no good for anyone. I am a believer in problem solving, if there is a major problem, the answers lie within it and just keep going. You will see A LOT of progress in a short amount of time. The focus is not in the past it is on the present moment and ending result. If she keeps thinking about the past, how she got into the situation, you begin to feel very defeated. When you begin to get that feeling set in you tend to want to take the easy way out and that isn’t always the best way to resolve the issue. My grandma use to tell me if it is easy, really easy then it is probably not meant to have. Roll up your sleeves and get to work!! Focus on that future you want and live in that, keep your eye on the prize and work towards it. Even when things look really bad, there is always someone, somewhere else that is far worse if you need perspective on the situation.  That is one of the Universal laws, and these laws always apply to our lives whether we realize it or not.

So get your paper out, make some headings and separate them into columns and get to work. Here are some other examples, in work and you need more clients or sales start brainstorming. Of course most clients begin with a column of “get more people” ok that is a good start but let’s expand on this statement. How…. What are some ways you personally could get more people? How many more people do you need? Do you have a number? Is it 5 more people to get a bonus? Is it 15 every month to make your income you want to make? Being very specific is really helpful with you are playing with numbers. Then put down how many you are willing to approach daily to get this number of 15. Then how will you go about reaching out? Busy work, paper work will not help you make those contacts. You need to open up that beautiful mouth and start to talk to people. Put under that column to listen to a self help person that can help you with approach, verbiage, techniques. They all have webinars or YouTube channels that you can listen to as you are networking.  Have you created a blog for you business? How are you going about selling your product? Have you educated yourself on the power of social media? Really learned the game to increase your numbers in popularity to get the hits and interest sparked in you and your product?   You can do this with health, weight loss, toning your body, eating healthy, kids and their schedules, school and any other projects. Get that goal down on paper and start getting to work on it! YOU can do it! When we want change in our lives, we come up with a plan and go forward. Living in the past will not propel us forward in the way we want. Let go of yesterdays problems or upsets and move on today.  Today is a beautiful day and so much to live for!

Clear the Clutter Out

If you want to improve your life immediately, clean out a closet. Often it’s what we hold onto that holds us back. ~ Cheryl Richardson

I love that quote, it symbolizes so much in one sentence. If your perspective is not a deep as some you would literally take it as closet is cluttered so let’s go clean one out and you will see accomplishment that you did something (action step) and then you can go sit back down and wait for your dreams outside of that closet, outside of the room, outside of the house to manifest or come to you easier. Why? Because you did something, you did an action step today and saw results so therefore you are working with the law of attraction and something is bound to change and go your way. Right?

I remember thinking this early on in my learning, I was cleaning out each room, repainting walls, buying new stuff to go into my office area. Surely all this work in my newly painted amazing office will help me attract more clients, more money and new people in my life. As I sat taking a break in my new squishy office chair that reclined a little patting myself on the back because I only had one wall left, I had a thought. This thought came at the most perfect time, I sat there and told myself changing the wall colors, rearranging my space and adding new life in here isn’t going to really bring me what I want. The change in energy will help but the action steps of me getting out there in the world, in the sunshine, talking and asking questions is what is going to help me get to where I want to be and really help me do what I love and that is to help people. I sat and thought will this beautiful taupe wall with white trim help me attract the type of clients I would like to work with? Will it help me attract the relationships I seek? While Fung Shui does state to clear your energy in your space and raise its Chi, the actual action step isn’t in me changing the outside. It starts with me changing what’s on the inside of me.  Now I love change, I embrace it and look forward to new things and ways. I am not one to hide or run from change I think it adds so much to our lives. But for the changes and hard work I am doing on the outside to my space should have that much focus and action steps to change my beliefs on the inside too. If you are able to love someone so much then you are able to love yourself that way too. If you are able to problem solve for others on the outside then you are smart enough to problem solve on the inside of you too.

Symbolically clearing out the clutter in your closets really means, you are holding on to so much in your mind and body. If your outside area is cramped, dirty and cluttered than you have some area of your life that is that way too. So tackling that closet, clearing out clutter, reorganizing it, buying shelves or baskets for shoes to help make the area better looking and feel better when you look at it. You are starting the process of clearing out the clutter in your mind. After you do a closet sit down with a notebook and begin to write. Write about how you feel, you know the subject or area you are avoiding, begin to write about it. You may not have much at first but all those negative words or self talk you say to yourself that is exactly where you need to start. When you catch yourself saying those words to yourself, write them down. Keep a journal all day long. Then once you see what is going on inside your brain we can reword that negative self talk. When you catch your negative saying rephrase it into a positive and say it over and over 7 times to yourself. For example you catch yourself saying I’m no good at …… Catch yourself and say Thank you for sharing but I chose to believe that I am good at ….. and say I am good at….. over and over 7 times. Express gratitude for catching yourself and correcting yourself nicely. Gratitude that you now have peace with what has been bothering you.

Then go tackle another cluttered space and know that sometimes we have to clean and clear our outside space before we are ready to tackle the inside. Just make sure you do the inside your mind work too. Guilt, sadness, anger, fear and self doubt are huge clutter collectors. When I see someone with a ton of clutter in their cars or homes I know what questions to start to ask to help them.  We all do this, it’s an indicator that something much deeper is going on.


What’s Growing In Your Soil?

You can not live a creative life unless you are willing to deal with your fear.

A friend of mine and I were talking the other day and what she said really hit home with so many people I know. The conversation went something like this

I have hit a new low, a spiritual bottom that I didn’t think was possible. It is not like a rock bottom some people hit when they have done drugs or drink. It’s in my bones kind of bottom. Like the breathes I take now are shallow, dark, dirty, there isn’t any hope that a new will come around. I just feel hopeless that everything in my past, all the work I have done up until this moment was for nothing. Nothing is changing, nothing feels different and nothing on the outside (circumstances) are going in a new direction. I just really don’t know what to do. I have turned to God many times and prayed, I have asked for signs, new opportunities and nothing. It’s like nothing is being answered. So I have thrown down my crown and magic wand to the Universe, I have surrendered in a way I have never before. I am on my knees desperate for a change and I don’t know if it will.  I began to really feel her pain, I could identify with where she was coming from. She was not only comparing her life to mine and everyone else she looked up to she was losing hope that anything good could come to her. She asked for no free advice, she just wanted to vent and the only thing I said is now that you are at a rock bottom, now that you are ready to give up, know that this is when the miracle comes. In your darkest hour, when you lose all hope that things will not work out and you want to give up, hold on for a few more minutes. Usually this is when the magic starts. She sighed deeply and said thank you, and hung up. I could have said so much more but that is the most simply and best message I could get in before she had to go to her meeting.

While at her meeting, her gift came in the most unusual way. An associate of hers was talking about gratitude and how it made a huge difference in her life. Simple little things everyday brought about huge changes. Now my friend could have easily ignored her and walked on but she stayed and listened half heartedly. This other lady was explaining gratitude is like fertile soil. The kind of soil that we sink our feet into and it feeds our bones and soul. She knew her soil was depleted of many things good, instead it was full of sadness, fear and anger and it was zapping her energy everyday.

She knew in her heart this was the beginning of something new. She called me back after her meeting and asked me to help her think of creative ways to live with a grateful heart everyday. She wanted to wake up in the morning feeling alive and happy. So we came up with a game plan for the first week. Exercises she was to do every morning when her eyes opened. Instead of thinking of all the pressing things she had to wake up to she began to retrain her brain and immediately correct herself with thank you’s for waking up, being here in a home, how comfortable her bed is, how still the morning is and how much she was looking forward to the good in the day. Her intentions for the day were to be set before her feet hit the floor. Then we did some other things during the day to not lose the momentum of her new found exercise. Reminders, signs she would look for, we had to make it fun to retrain that brain and get new energy flowing to her. In 13 short weeks I have seen transformation and big miracles in her life and that is always the best thing to share with someone.

Do you feel this way? Or have you felt like this before? For the majority of us I feel we have in one way or another. Some bounce back faster than others and some need to refresh their skills in this area. It is so much better to live a life of happiness, or joy than it is to live in darkness.