You Can Change!

I have studied and applied many self help techniques over my life.  I have studied this field since I was in high school (over 26 years) I can’t even think about that number right now.  But what I have been introduced to recently and I have dived into it not only for myself but for everyone around me is amazing…

See I truly believe God or the Universe will present to you information when you are ready for it.  For the next step because there is always a next step.  I am an expert on many different ways you can help yourself but there is always room for growth. Combine this expertness with science and I am one very happy little blonde.  So what happened? What have I been up to? I have been reading again, I have been applying new information (because that is truly the key step to anything) and I have been seeing changes.

What happened? I had a friend recommend a site to me on facebook, I checked it out, it was the John Assaraf page, if you haven’t checked it out please do so. He offers some great content and advice!! Then I went to the bookstore and a book literally jumped out at me. It is called Change Your Brain Change Your Life by Daniel Amen. While both of these people talk about your brain is absolutely able to change I love the science I learned about how and why this is possible because old school information is wrong. Let me take a story from the book real quick.  Daniel Amen talks about a 9 year old boy whose personality changed for the worse.  His personality changed in about a year and a half time period, from a sweet, loving kid to one that was suicidal and homicidal thoughts everyday.   I mean what the crap! He is 9 years old and so many people are quick to judge or dismiss and put someone on medication, which can make the problem much worse.  Up until this point there was no reason really why he was drawing pictures of himself hanging from a tree or shooting other kids. This doctor did not give up on him, he knew if he could take an image of his brain it would tell so much more as to what was going on with this child.  An MRI was ordered and performed on him and to everyone’s surprise his left temporal lobe was gone! What the crap! Left temporal lobe problems in the past studies have shown this part does have something to do with aggression in people.But why? There was a cyst about the size of a golf ball occupying the space where his lobe use to be.  If they wouldn’t have found the cyst it would have eaten its way into the bone and in six months he would have been deceased. At nine years old!

Ok so why does this book and Assaraf site make me happy? They both state you are not stuck with the brain you have. Science has proven we can change our brains and therefore change our lives for the better.  By providing new insights on how the brain works you can begin to see it differently and take the personal feelings out of your situation.  IF you can retrain your brain then you can make changes faster and simpler than before.  Each day I will blog about new information on how to do this and examples and proof it works with stories from other people who have tried it and had success.  Everyone is different, each body is a unique special operating system.  What works for one person may not work for the other one but applying a simple system into your thinking you can see changes.  This does not have to be complicated but it is work.  We will be challenging what is already wired in your brain but that can be a fun science experiment you do on yourself.

Education is still the best asset in the world. I highly recommend you research it for yourself and let me supplement your knowledge and training.

Much love to you all

 

Mindset 

It is crazy how much you sweat when the feels like temp is 104 degrees. Inside a sweat box of a gym it should be a sauna 😂 

Day three is in the books. Squats, lunges and Vertimax. I have always heard my husband state working out in here increases mental toughness. I can see why so many of our athletes look good out on the field in skill and endurance. It is a mindset to get through a workout in humid heat. I usually do workouts at home or in the mornings on these hot days. 

New habits require new routines and getting out of that comfort zone!! Like any new goal you have to do different in order to have different in life. 

Challenges Are Positive Changes 

Today I started day 1 of my 21 day Fix journey. I am the first to admit I do not like to watch what I eat or drink nor am I always excited to workout. But today on say 1 I decided to wake up make a protein shake, added a little peanut butter protein mix to it too and a fat burner in the mix. I thought why not?? Haha!! I always heard my husband talk about being hot when he added fat burners to his shakes and boy he wasn’t kidding!! I don’t sweat. I don’t like to sweat so to just sit still in our bedroom while picking out my shoes for the day and breaking a sweat I was like what the crap!! What have I done? It’s 90 degrees today and I have to make the morning at the gym then family time after that!! Being hot and sweaty doesn’t mix with this!! 

But I got through my workout and my shake today and boy 20 more days might be the ultimate test with my lack of fitness. But self love and feeling a lot better is my intention and priority. 

And a side note my FAVORITE little drink completely increased my calorie intake so I will be cutting back on those!! Results!! Going for it! Can’t just half ass it so I’m all in!! Anyone can do anything full force for 21 days!! And yes I took before and will take after pics. Can’t wait!! 

How Do You Create Your Day?

How does your energy shape your day to day activities? I mean every one can figure out when your tired you are low on energy.  Have you ever sat down long enough and fell asleep? Or have you ever had more energy inside of you, you didn’t know what to do with yourself? Our daughter was at the gym last night with us and she kept pushing everyone to do more and more.  I just kept hearing I wish I had her energy, she is four.  Kids are like little sticks of dynamite at times, they just explode with energy and I would rather have that much energy than just flowing through the day.  Why? Here are some reasons why we should have a ton of energy each and every day…

Our emotions or what we hold most dear to us hold a ton of energy for us. Go ahead try it, think of something that is pleasant, you love, that means the world to you.  It feels good doesn’t it? The opposite of this makes us in the negative emotion range and that pulls our energy downward, like putting a blanket over the top of us that is heavy.  It doesn’t feel to light and flowing.  Thinking of positive things or people, or keeping our energy in check all day helps us increase our energy every day.  Thus producing our goals easier, our life experiences better and just having many good days versus bad days.

This goes with the above paragraph, how you live in your mind is directly reflected in your outside world.  This doesn’t hold true for anyone else except for you.  You are the only one responsible for you and your experiences.  Think about that one for a minute.  I use to resist this statement by saying but not every day is a good one, people do stupid things to mess up my day.  Oh they can, but the key here is how you react to them.  You have a choice every day to pick which feeling you want in your heart and mind.  Just because someone does something upsetting, you have more than enough willpower, determination, and sense to state, there is nothing more important than me feeling good about this situation right now.  Saying that statement over and over not only release those negative feelings welling up, but it focuses your mind on the bigger picture.  Honestly there isn’t anything more important than you feeling good at every moment during the day.  If your inner world is going well then the hiccups in life won’t bring you down for that long anymore.  Perfect example for me was a couple months ago, I was feeling all positive, every day I woke up with energy, I was getting things done, then I received some upsetting news.  Sure it set me back for about an hour, it made me upset, I dwelled on it.  I even asked why in the heck is this happening? I was doing so well inside of my head, I was in the flow of positive, why does this keep happening? UGH! Then I remembered what I teach, not every circumstance in our life will be positive, regardless how much you are in the positive zone.  Why? Because people make mistakes, people are human, and life is about teaching us things.  This was a teaching moment for me in not only my reaction to something but as a reminder of communication is so important in life.  Nothing is resolved faster than communicating in a correct way. It resolves so much conflict!

What we dwell on the most inside our head, our thoughts, is where our energy goes.  Alot of force goes where our thoughts go.  Start to ask yourself, do an energy check throughout the day.  Begin to take inventory on those thoughts, begin to check in with your mind, pay attention to what you are talking to yourself about. When you catch your mind wandering down a past, negative memory, state is this what I want to spend my energy on? Is this what I want to keep in my life? If not replace it with an outcome you do want.  The best example I can give is this.  A client one time was having marriage problems, they were arguing all the time now, not clicking like they use to.  She began to take inventory of her thoughts all day, she began to check in with her mind and see what was going on.  She found that during the day when she wasn’t around her husband she was arguing with him in her head.  She was making him wrong even when he wasn’t around.  After a good laugh about how crazy it sounded she began to see her thoughts and these arguments she was having by herself were all day long.  Her energy was going to fighting with an imaginary friend in her head.  She began to ask herself is this really what I want more of? Is this really the type of marriage I want or do I want it to be like it was? She began to replace these arguments in her head with pleasant images, pleasant, happy thoughts.  Such as when they were dating, where they went, how they felt, holding hands and laughing.  She began to think of them when they were happier, dinners and breakfasts together.  Car rides talking and sharing about life and trips to the lake.  She didn’t think oh if I do this then it will all go back to the way it was because he changed.  She just gently began replacing the arguing in her head with these thoughts.  She visualized and felt the warmth of her husbands arms around her while in bed, just gentle positive real life results that she held dear at one time in her mind and heart.  She did this for about 60 days, I tracked her results in my binder and her life did change for the better, her marriage did get back on track and it got stronger.  She relaxed, she enjoyed life again, and most of all she fell back in love with herself, life and her husband.  You can apply significant energy to any area of your life, you just have to begin to pay attention to where you are sending the energy.

Your energy rolls through you and out of you.  Pay attention to where you are flowing and what you are flowing to.  This goes for what you are lacking, if you are lacking money, but want to stay home and work, are you telling yourself everyday over and over again I don’t know how to make this work.  I haven’t made any money yet.  Or do you check in with yourself saying I’m still not making any money, nothing has changed is your feeling.  Change the words and feelings you have to change the outcome.  If you build yourself up each day you will gain.  If you keep tearing yourself down each day, you won’t gain as much or at all.  Think of it as a child, would you inspire your child to do great, or would you tell them they can’t do it everyday? Put yourself in that space and inspire yourself, learn new ways, be open to life.

~much love to you all

Consequences, What’s that? 

Consequences, karma, bad juju be, responsibility, whatever you want to call it I think a lot of people both young and old have put this concept or words aside. And believe it doesn’t pertain to them. 

In the past couple of months I have come across some pretty big slap in your face situations and when the universe or God keeps delivering the same set of words in different circumstances it is trying to tell you something!! 

For example my husband and I own a strength and conditioning gym. We train a lot of different type of athletes both young and old. When we hear the kids talking about what this one adult said to her individually or as a team I couldn’t believe it. One head coach has a history of taking favorites and playing them all season whether they are good or bad. It’s about the parents and money and status in community basically. The pattern is there for this coach. Now his specific player he has chosen as a favorite, is out above the whole team. The rest of the kids are a great group of kids all with their unique and special qualities. But none of it matters, so this team is divided. Instead of seeing this issue he creates more division and says to the team “we are having a meeting to find out why you don’t like (favorite player name). It is mandatory because she is upset. Now as a group it’s not the favorite player they have a problem with. It’s the behavior of coach yelling at them in practice for the exact same stuff favorite does. This is an adult that puts down kids. This is a coach position that doesn’t win many tournaments because he has divided his team instead of bringing it together. 

There are so many circumstances here lately makes me wonder what the heck am I not taking responsibility for? What’s the message here?? I learn so much from just looking at what’s going on around me. Do you do this too? 

Kids are the best teachers in the world. With five of them in our family I learn a lot on a daily basis. I am constantly reminded of patience, love, being a kid, understanding and of course being tested. But in between the bickering, loving moments, naps and laughter there are teaching moments for adults. If we can listen and understand the message. What irritates us is what we should observe and think about. It’s not another reason to beat ourselves up over. It’s a way to grow into a better person. See that coaches message to me is to keep thinking of unity not division. To see how much that division is hurting everyone as a whole. There is no reason for it other than to simply observe and take the message and apply it to different areas of my life. To teach my kids to not exclude, not judge and how to cope when others do it to them. To teach them the tools to help them get through it and to think of other ways to help others. 

Changing the words and perspective is sometimes all you need to do to make it better for yourself. It opens up new doors and opportunities. What messages have been coming up for you? Are you stuck in the same story and need a new look at it? If so comment or email me and I can help you. 

~much love to you 

Hiccups in your plan 

What do you think of when you run into obstacles? We have been in two airports for six hours today and still counting and we are still in the same state!! 

Sure we can get upset, protest and get mad but really how is that helping us or anyone else around us? We have seen plenty of people very upset and rightly so when they have waited six hours for one flight. 

But today we made the conscious decision to be pleasant no matter what. Even when our four year old is wiping her Doritos fingers across our shirts with a smile. 

There is nothing like a big group of us sitting up against the wall in the airport taking bets on departure time. So far the lady in green is correct🙂  

A great reminder of how much time we waste getting upset over circumstances we can’t control (airline is short staffed today) so we learn to go with the flow. We have met some really great people. Shared stories and networked. It was funny to listen to the whole terminals phone ding when airline updates were texted. The song of the text was in unison. 

Truly not worth spending extra energy getting upset. Breathe and live in the moment. It’s amazing how much you can enjoy in unexpected circumstances. 

Another year, another ….


It’s my birthday today! Yay!! 

Usually on birthdays I was always encouraged to do a little self check in. So we will do it together today :) 

Each year the theory goes on your birthday you are re-born in a sense. Like your own little New Years party on your birthday. It is a day to reflect and make new goals for the next birthday. Landmarks you want to be at, new bars in your life raised (not the partying kind here) but think of it as a ladder. An unending ladder of life. What’s the next level you want to go to? 

For me this next year will entail fitness and business. To be bold in my adventures. Waking up each day asking myself what will it take for me to get to —- level today? What can I do to build upon what I have been doing? Meditation, visualization and even some crystals could play in the mix. 

Do you have a tradition you do on your birthday? Or do you just let it be a special day that passes? Take action on your birthday and renew your New Years goals. Dust off those goals you have pushed out of the way due to life getting busy and get back to it. Even if it is just taking better care of yourself it is a step up!! 

When we take bold moves the best experiences come from them!! Don’t be in the same place next year on your birthday!! Get moving!! 

Vertimax Anyone?

My beloved fitness partner in crime calls this Vertimax the Death Star. She gave it the nickname when we were taking them out of the box and packaging. Her words were “that doesn’t even look like it would be fun.”  Now I absolutely love this thing!! It gives the best results in the least amount of time. All the women I put on this contraption as they call it all agree it does do its job!! These are my babies in the gym! Have you ever been on one? Ever tried it? 

Give me 30 minutes of your time, three times a week and I can help you create changes in your body. It works with your body weight and resistance. 

If we would embrace the thing then positive changes come. Isn’t that the way with everything in life? I mean I dislike exercising or I should rephrase that. I can think of 100 other things to do besides plopping my booty in front of this thing and strapping on the ankle wraps and hooking up to it. Esh and I made a pact for a year no excuses. Only if one of us had a fever could we cancel. For one year we did it. We would both think of reasons why we shouldn’t go to the gym. It’s to cold. It’s to hot. I am hungry. I mean the list goes on and on. But we came in anyway at 4pm everyday and did it. Once we got going we felt a ton better. We had more productive lives because we pushed ourselves inside that gym. 

The look when I tell people it’s Vertimax day is so funny. It’s a universal look. Our athletes hate it when it’s ab day on it. They all ask if they can pass my ab workout!! Is there something else to do besides that!! What the heck! I’m in no way at their level of fitness but come on. It is really not that bad!! 

So if you haven’t tried it go try it! I love this thing! It’s amazing!! It’s called a Vertimax and this little square can do amazing things for your body! It’s not just for athletes or models. 

Are You Enough?

Talking and Coaching many people I have come across a common theme and would like to share with you a different perspective about life.  Let me ask you this… I have watched, experienced, coached people that want more in life but often just do little to get what they want.  For example, you want to quit your job and start a business because you are unhappy with the hours, stress or want more freedom.  But your actions are exhaustion when you get off work, you don’t get up early, or on lunch you aren’t making the calls you need to do or market your new business to get it up and going.  But yet you want it so bad!

I compare it to this, if you sit on the couch all day and do nothing then that is because you really don’t feel you are enough, you are afraid and you are afraid of becoming a failure.  We can mask it any way we want to by saying to ourselves no that isn’t the reason.  Not enough time is an excuse, it really is.  We all have the same amount of time in each day.  It is how you use that time that makes the world of difference.

If you reject yourself first, then you don’t have to deal with others rejection of you.  We often manifest the very quiet beliefs in our mind.  If you are fearful of being rejected, the very outcome of doing nothing or very little manifests those results, so your proof of people will not buy my product, or they will not like me is manifesting. You have rejected yourself and your efforts before other people could have a chance to.

So how do you turn it around? You look past that momentary feeling of fear, you move towards what you feel uneasy about doing and you do it.  Everyday until you are not fearful anymore.  You work through your own negative self talk and begin to make changes. With any change you will grow into a new person. The non action has become a habit and you can learn and change into new habits.  Hire a coach, read a book, and apply the action steps.  That is the bottom line.  Get after your dreams and live life! There is no reason why you can not have something you want. There is no reason why you have to think others will reject you or you rejecting yourself!

Get after life and start to live it to the fullest! Do not let fear get in your way! Fear is a temporary feeling! Action steps feel so much better when you begin to do them and gain momentum in your goals. Go For It!

Life Is Like A Snow Globe

What happens when things don’t go your way? So you are zooming along and doing well right? Things are happening in a positive way, your head is in this game of Law of Attraction, you have your lucky rock, your mantra going and all your visualizations going everyday.  Right? Man that is a lot of work isn’t it.  You keep reminding yourself focus on what you want, what makes me mad isn’t want I want….

Then BAM, it happens, someone comes into your sphere and shakes it up like a snow globe.  Shake, shake, shake, shake… then your like what the crap? I was doing so well, what happened? Why did this happen? And that would be the test, that would be the game of life. This is where you can repeat the pattern or learn to evolve as a human being, because we are not perfect.

Now do you sit there and say to yourself no matter what victory is mine? Or do you get all wrapped up in the drama and let it consume your mind and actions? Do you quickly say to yourself, for example this person is saying mean things, do you think you know I wouldn’t want to trade places in life with him/her, so what they have to say means little to me.  Or do you do a self check and say is this really what I want to attract more of if I step into it?

For me I do the above paragraph and do a quick check of the path I see that person going on.  Do I want to join them on their path or do I continue on my path? We continue to keep having these tests not because we are being punished for something, we continue having them so we can grow into a person we want to be.  To get different results you have to be a different person, this includes different reactions to life situations.

To get something you have never had, you have to be someone you have never been.  I use to dislike this saying so much, but it is so true! It is such a fun part of the journey.  Start looking at life as though it is 100% for you.  That life supports you in every way.  IF it didn’t you wouldn’t get tested so much!!

Well honestly the last sentence of “you wouldn’t get tested so much” is more like a coping skill or a new perspective for your life.  Life can be fun, it should be fun, a change of perspective is sometimes all we need.  Go after tasks full force, full of life to keep moving forward.  Enjoy life!

~Much  love to you all