Have you ever asked yourself ‘Why is it that people can experience pain yet fail to change?” Does this statement touch somewhere within you? Have you yourself not experienced enough pain yet to change your circumstances? Do you have a high pain threshold? I think we get that mixed up with our emotional threshold to many times. We intermix the 2 different thresholds and with stand a lot in toxic relationships, bad job environments and think it will get better.
Have you ever had enough and decided to leave that toxic relationship? You hit that threshold and finally decided ENOUGH! I deserve to treated better than this, why waste more of my life in such a toxic relationship or unhealthy circumstance. You got to the point you were not willing to settle anymore for less than you want.
My point is, when we begin to use pain as a friend, an ally, instead of it keeping us stuck it drives us to take new action and produce new results. It isn’t just with relationships it could be with physical fitness too. Maybe you are tired of not being able to walk up stairs without being winded, or feeling low in energy every morning so you begin to make changes to your eating habits or exercise. Maybe you want to fit into that size 4 again and you finally wake up one morning and say Enough! You begin to make lifestyle changes and clean out the cabinets of unhealthy food and replace it with food that loves your body instead.
What motivates us to change? It is the sheer desire to remove the pain from your life and establish pleasure in its place. “The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you”. ~Anthony Robbins